I got the power !!!

"Make sure that you don’t look directly into their eyes and keep smiling with your eyes down or else they might just call off this proposal" said my Mother .She was scared I would miss this proposal as I am crossing my standard age of marriage, by the way who made this holy book which spoke about certain things that should be followed by a girl and certain by a women that is not it, certain code of conduct even for elderly women too. Why not a code of conduct for men then?? I asked my mother quickly "Why Maa  I should know the type of boy I would want to marry" she replied "It’s not that your 18 to make your choice by the grace of God you got this proposal at this age 25 is alarming situation so just shut-up and learn to respect our wish  " 

I felt like now I am a trained soldier to enter the marriage Cargill to go and obey the commandos all around me and continue to serve to country which would be my in laws family.

I entered the hall where the family was sitting along with my younger cousin and sat quietly, I tried to peep and see who the boy would be but I could not see anyone. The mother said hi to me with pride and introduced me to the family members beginning with her brother, daughters, grandparents I assumed she is a widow and there she said she was one and lost her husband just when her son was 7 years old he is the youngest.

After about 15 minutes one man entered I was scared that this might be him as he was going to be late and yes it was him I could not raise my eyes as I was scared and nervous as well.”Sapna this is Rishi my son" his mother said I shook hands with him and looked at him. He looked above 35 years to me I wanted some time alone with him to talk but I was not getting a chance and he looked tamed by his family so he did not make any initiative. God I want to talk to him before I am couriered to his place.

My father inquired about him and he was an engineer and loved gardening and cooking as part time. My father very proudly announced my PHD in psychology and told them about my part time activities of spending time with special children and social activism, quickly his mother also added that Rishi also is a social activist fighting for equality in sex .I was super impressed with that, suddenly I heard whispers from his sisters who were asking to give us time alone and we were allowed in the most obvious situation to go out in the garden and talk.

Hi as you already know my name is Rishi I would like to know about you Sapna he said "I am Sapna you know that too and I would like to know about you " I said and we both laughed we started talking about each other and our likes and hobbies I got kind of comfortable with him so I opened up a little more to know his views about women "What if I wore short skirt today and got introduced to you as a modern girl for this proposal?" I said "Well I would not be here talking to you then" his answer was quiet quick

"So you have a problem with the dressing?”

“Yea actually I hate it when women expose unnecessarily trying to grab attention now look at you, you’re wearing a beautiful sari like an Indian women with great appearance I like it that way. He said

“So women dressed in western outfit is unethical ?”I asked

“Totally, first they call for attention with indecent clothes then cry for being chased by men” he laughed

“I am sorry to know that an activist like you fighting for equality has such sick thoughts Rishi I really began liking your views till you just spoke your heart out about your narrow mentality”

He looked at me and tried to rectify I did not give him any chance to speak and moved out to the hall where the families were sitting and made a quick announcement that I am calling this proposal off My mother looked at me with shock

This man Rishi is a so called activist for equality of sex in the society who is still not aware that women here are asking for freedom and respect not for sick man like these to make a judgment of what a women should wear and how she should behave and talk, for that our parents take years to mould us in being good citizens Rishi you cannot try to change someone. Change your sick mentality which says girls who wear western clothes don’t portray good ethics in that case your sister is wearing a backless blouse her husband should leave her? I am sorry I cannot be a part of this hypocrisy I said and left with pride and no regrets

 “Why should you bow down to a man with no respect to women and follow his life patterns? We are free to do what we like and not be an actor faking a character which is not our real face”